I'm starting to prepare for the empty nest that I'll be faced with next year. Still can't believe that my baby is a senior in high school. Nearly 17. Dang. These past 17 years have flown by. But I digress . . . one of the things that I think will help me cope with her going off to college are my hobbies. They keep me busy.
I'm a writer. I love to write, have for years. One of my short stories has been accepted for publication in The Storyteller this summer, which thrills me to pieces. I've had one other story published, and it took first place in their People's Choice (fiction) award! It would be so cool to do that again. I also write web copy for a riflescopes company, which has been a blast. I get to research for my fiction writing and use that research to write non-fiction copy, and get paid for it. Very cool.
I'm a scrapbooker. I have a studio, which I love escaping to every now and then. For me, it's about recording the stories of my family, my life. I imagine my grandchildren looking at those albums, the albums being passed on for generations. Of course, they'll probably get tossed some day. Nah - someday I'll be a famous writer and those scrapbooks'll be worth a mint! (don't tarnish my dream, just go along with it)
I'm a runner. A very, very slow runner. But I run 2 miles three times a week. It' been great. I love the feeling of freedom, lacing up my shoots and going out, just me and the road. And the occasional coyote. One scared the bejesus out of me tonight. Yikes. Unlike those who run with an iPod, I run with nothing - that's a great time to noodle ideas, to think about my characters, and indulge my competitive side (though let's face it, I'm only competing with myself . . . at my last race, I was beaten by an old couple WALKING).
All these hobbies take time and compete for attention, but together they make me complete. Is it too much? Nah. There just aren't enough hours.
What are your hobbies? Do you ever think you need to give one up, or is there one you want to take up?
I have been running about 2 months now, doing C25K. I'm doing well,
considering I started running at age 44 and have lupus. Why did I
start? Because I turned 44 weighing more than I've ever weighed in my
life - more than I weighed when I gave birth to my daughter. Because I
am feeling the years go by faster and faster. Because I'm feeling the
stress of an impending empty nest. Because I want to make myself a
priority. Because most of my hobbies are sedentary (writing,
scrapbooking, reading). In all honesty, I didn't give it much thought. I
just woke up one day and thought, I wonder if I could run?
Yesterday, I ran in the Girls on the Run 5K. I'm already feeling like
part of the running community. When I went to the restroom before the
race yesterday, I ran into Julie, a runner I met while scrapping last
month. We ended up lining up together, though she outran me easily (she
came in 5th!). I reserved my strength, walked uphill, ran downhill. All I
wanted to do was beat the time I ran last month, 51:22. It was hot, so I
was a bit conservative - was afraid I wouldn't be able to cross the
finish line at a run. But I did! And I ran it in 47.59!!! It was such a
rush. This race was bigger than the little one I ran last month. As I
turned the last corner and saw the finish line, I broke into a jog. The
DJ announced my name over the loudspeaker as I ran through the big
inflated "FINISH arch" and I threw my hands up in victory as the race
photographer took my picture. I walked for a bit to cool down, then went back to the
finish line to cheer others on as they finished. Met a woman who was
practically a pro. She was so encouraging, so nice. It felt great. Julie
texted me after the race to see how I did and congratulate me on
finishing. Ha - I almost typed "winning" - and that's exactly what it
felt like. I may have come in 27th, but I set a new PR. That was over 24
hours ago and I'm still grinning.
Would it be wrong to order wallet size pictures of myself crossing the finish line to give away to everyone? :o)
When we last spoke, I told you about Lisa Bearnson's instructions on how to find Joy in the Journey. And that's really what this blog is all about, that's what I am all about - the Journey. Many years ago I recognized that I often enjoyed the Journey more than the Destination. When I was little, the trip across Kansas in our wood-grain-sided station wagon was an adventure. Mom and Dad were waaaay up front, and my little brother and I were allllll the way in the back, in that huge expanse. We had packed Hershey's chocolate bars for snacks, but Bro & I discovered that they melted quite well in the sun, then we could squish the chocolate out the end and suck on it. I don't recall Mom's reaction, but I'm sure she wasn't quite as amazed as we were at that discovery. We watched out the window for antelope and buffalo, and got excited when we actually saw one. Bro irritated me, I irritated him. We had staring contests. Mom instituted the "Let's See Who Can Be Quiet the Longest" game, but neither Bro nor I were good at that game. But it was still a fun trip.
When I grew up and began to make purchasing decisions, actually getting something wasn't nearly as satisfying as pouring over the details, making lists, researching the pros and cons. That's true for everything from decorating my house to deciding which fitness watch to get. Again, it's the Journey that brings me the most satisfaction.
My writing life may be the same way. When that perfect day happens, and I actually get a book published, will I be satisfied? Of course I will. You'll probably hear me whooping and hollering all the way over there. But the Journey has been wonderful so far, and I expect it will just get better. My critique group has become my touchstone. Those women are hard on me - they tell me what I'm doing wrong, what doesn't make sense, what I need to do better, but they also support me in a way that no non-writer could. Those I've met at conferences have shared their experiences, encouraged me to persevere even when the market is tough and have passed along their knowledge. The online writer's community is also supportive and full of information. And then there's the personal Journey. I've learned so much about myself since I began writing. It has made me a better wife, mother, person. I'm sure I have a lot more to learn on this Journey, but I fully intend to enjoy every moment of it and find Joy in this Journey.
How about you? Do you enjoy the Journey or the Destination more?
I went to a crop Saturday to benefit the Buddy Pack Program with the Central Missouri Food Bank and had the pleasure of meeting and talking with Lisa Bearnson, founding editor of Creating Keepsakes and entrepreneurial scrapbooker extraordinaire. Her keynote talk was on Finding Joy in the Journey. She impressed me beyond belief, so I'm going to share a bit of her talk here, though I am sure I am not doing it justice.
To begin, she told a little bit of how she got started. She was working as an editor for WordPerfect magazine. OK, let me digress for a moment. WordPerfect used to be THE word processing software. I took classes on it, I was good at it, and was even offered a job teaching people how to use it. I read WordPerfect magazine. This was all back in the late '80's/early '90s, before Bill Gates took over the world. So, Lisa was working for WordPerfect magazine. She had lunch with a friend, was complaining about her job, and her friend asked her what kind of magazine she'd rather be working in. She said scrapbooking, of course! (my takeaway: wouldn't it be nice if we could all answer that question so quickly?). She told her husband about it that night and he supported her, said let's do it. (my takeaway: wouldn't it be nice if we could always be supported that quickly, that easily and that unconditionally?) They got together with another couple, each mortgaged their homes for $50,000 and went to a publishing seminar, where they approached someone with PrimeMedia (I'm sure I'm spelling that wrong, but I don't want to go look it up right now. I'd rather just tell my story. Bear with me.) He laughed at them, said they hadn't done a year's worth of market research. Said that they needed at least a million dollars to start. Said it was a stupid topic for a magazine. They did it anyway. It was successful. And that same company bought Creating Keepsakes years later. Apparently it wasn't such a stupid idea.
I loved that. So here's what I'm going to try to do, and what I encourage you to do.
Don't listen to experts. They don't really know everything.
Do listen to your gut.
Don't be afraid to say yes.
Do take chances.
What would you rather be working on right now? Seriously. Comment below and let me know.
I gave a presentation Saturday at the Fulton Public Library about using CreateSpace to self-publish a novel. The impetus for the program was the offer from CreateSpace for winners of National Novel Writing Month. CreateSpace is a corporate sponsor that offers five (yes, you read that right - five!) free (yep, right again) copies of a book for NaNoWriMo winners. It's a great deal. They give you until June to redeem your coupon code to get your free copies (you pay shipping and handling). But considering this offer brings up a question. Are you self-publishing your novel?
Before you answer that question, please give it serious thought, because once you create and nurture your baby, please, please, please don't release it to the harsh cruel reality of readers until it is ready.
Some things for you to think about:
Have you rewritten (reworked) this novel? This is the stage where you think, OK, that wouldn't have happened. My character really would've done this instead of that. You fill in plot holes. You fix continuity issues. You step up the tension. You create conflict between the characters. Tie up the loose ends.
Have you edited this novel? And I mean with a fine tooth comb. Did you get someone who is really, really good at grammar and punctuation to proof it for you? Don't trust yourself to find the mistakes - you will read what you know you meant to put there. Is every single comma in the right place?
Have you formatted this novel correctly? Do your research. Look at a lot of books with a critical eye. What font do they use? How is the book set up? How many blank pages are between the cover and the title page? Where does each chapter begin on the page? What do the headers and footers look like? How many blank pages are at the back of the book? What does the acknowledgement page look like? What other pages are at the front of the book? Copyright information? What about Library of Congress info? (Do a little research on that. Go ahead. I'll wait.) Look at the paragraph about it being a work of fiction. Is there just one title page? This is a painstaking process, but take your time and do it RIGHT.
Do you have a professional looking cover? Again, do your research. Look at CreateSpace's detailed instructions about how to create your own cover. Look at covers for other books like yours. Consider hiring someone who is good with a camera and a computer and graphic design to help you with this. Do you have a well-honed blurb for the back cover? A professional photo of yourself? Reviews from people who really matter (not Cousin Jane who likes mysteries)?
Do you have a marketing plan? You need to know what genre your book is, who your target audience is, and how you will get your book into the hands of your target audience. The marketing plan is actually one piece of your Business Plan (which, if you are going to write as a business, you need to have). Again - research. That's a whole 'nother post, so I'm not going to talk about it here.
Do you have the ooomph to follow through with your marketing plan? This means that when people look at you, down their noses and say, ohhhhhhh, it's self-published?, you'll be OK with that and can move forward. By the way, be prepared for that. And be prepared to distinguish between vanity publishing and self-publishing. It is different. Again, whole 'nother post. But you should know the difference. I highly recommend NEVER paying someone to publish your work. But I don't have a problem with someone who wants to self-publish in order to maintain control over their work and how it is marketed. I'm a bit of a control freak, so I get that.
OK, so, now you have a few things to think about. Give it some thought, and if you decide to go forward with self-publishing, good luck! Keep me posted and let me know if you have questions. I self-published Denim & Diamonds and I'd be glad to share my experiences with you.
OK, seriously . . . how did it get to be Day 36? January flew by. Not that I'm complaining. Every day that passes takes us further through winter and closer to the day that I don't have to worry about driving in snow and ice. But still. My life is spinning by. I swear, I can almost feel the air whistling past my ears as the Earth spins on its axis, going faster and faster.
Yesterday, I did something that was important in my Happiness Project. DOING things makes me happy. Making memories, experiencing things makes me happy. Although I enjoy sitting at home watching Sex and the City reruns, what makes me truly happy is doing. Yesterday I went to Star Trek: The Exhibit with my kiddo and a writing friend. While there, we met Robert Picardo, who played the Doctor on Star Trek: Voyager (who I loved - such a great sense of humor). He autographed my book (he wrote the funniest book in his character's voice) and autographed a glossy for my kiddo. I wanted so badly to shake his hand, so I did. Ericca snapped pics, I was star-struck, and my kiddo was even excited about getting his autograph. It was fun. It was exciting. It was memorable. And it made me happy.
Oh - and a wonderful bonus was the drive itself. Ericca and I talked about our characters, our plots and our dreams. It was a good day, start to finish.
I took a few minutes today to peruse The Happiness Project online today - I got the book for Christmas and have decided to make a concerted effort to make 2012 a good year. One of my focused resolutions for the month is to get more rest, which is especially important since I have Lupus. Although I got to bed later than I wanted last night, I still got about 7 hours of sleep. Ideally, 9 hours is good for me.
This morning I woke up a minute or two before my alarm went off, and I went ahead and got up (a tip from Peter Shankman) and drank a glass of water. The morning was so nice. I had my cup of coffee, ate a bowl of blueberry cereal and did a little writing . . . and made it to work on time.
It's amazing how much difference little changes can make. My kiddo goes to bed early every night. I think it's time I follow her example.
What little changes can you make in your life to increase your happiness?
2011 is in the rearview mirror and 2012 stretches out before me like a blank canvas. When I look back at 2011, there are several things that stand out:
going to Vegas to spend a long weekend with my BFF
going to 2 CKC events
going to the Princess Diana Exhibit at Union Station
my daughter getting her driver's license
presenting at the state paralegal seminar
teaching a scrapbooking class for the public library
presenting at the Mid-Mo Writers Conference
Ah, yes. It has been a wonderful year. :o)
And 2012 will be a good year, too. I can feel it. And given the fact that this is my last full year with my kiddo at home, I am determined to savor every moment of it. My goal is to make this year memorable and special. I want to make a big deal out of the holidays, and would like to do more to cherish the small moments, too. (I know I'm going to miss my kiddo horribly, so I think I need to start preparing now)
Anyone else out there starting to prepare for an empty nest?
I'm not sure why, but I rarely share reviews of the books I've read, however, I put this book on my bookshelf over the weekend as I was cleaning up for Christmas and remembered how much I enjoyed reading Love Under a Dark Sky by Shellie Foltz, so I thought I'd share my thoughts.
This book was a fun, fast read, very well-written and enjoyable. The heroine is older than usual, and the hero is a sci fi writer. I loved the fact that the characters were layered and complete, the story was believable, and I identified with the heroine (and the hero, for that matter). I really wanted this couple to get together, and loved experiencing the excitement of a new relationship through their eyes.
I enjoyed the book so much, I sought out the author's previous book and purchased it, also. I highly recommend the book - especially for women beyond the teen stage, who enjoy reading about real women finding real love.
As most of you know, I'm a writer and I participate in National Novel Writing Month. This month has been really tough, more of a challenge than I've ever faced in previous years. This is year eight, and for the first time, I may not win. But you know what, that's OK. Because I have started on a story that has really captured my attention, because it has combined my two passions - writing and scrapbooking. This story takes place when a series of murders break the tranquility of a small town, a group of scrapbookers band together to find the murderer when one of their own becomes a victim.
I envision the book being a sort of scrapbook of the women's lives as they grow closer and get closer to the murderer.
Here's a snippet of how the story begins:
The four women sitting at the back table at Crop Circles looked typical at first glance. If this were a movie, things would start off wide, beams of sunlight slanting down from the west, letting you know it's late afternoon. A big pan shot, showing idyllic rolling hills topped with brilliantly colored leaves of red and orange, surrounded by beautiful sprawling homes and ranches separated by white wooden fences that look like dotted lines from above, then the camera would scan right, past the little stream that is marked as Cosby Creek but everyone calls Casper Creek because of the ghost sightings, over the hills and then you would see the town of Tranquility. It's laid out in a perfect grid, with the Christmas tree factory to the north and the old rail yard to the south, highlighted by the depot that has been turned into a science museum for kids. The houses start off big, on tree lined streets, then get smaller and more dense the closer you get to the town square. The camera would zoom in, flying down Adams Street, drifting slightly right and left to give you the illusion of flight, dodging the cars parked on the left and right, in spite of the fact that parking isn't allowed on the right side. You'd pass a handful of businesses just before the square, the title company, a Ford dealership with a gleaming black Cobra sitting in the front window, a pharmacy and a pawn shop. When you finally get to the square, the camera pulls in tighter and you see the old courthouse, a stately stone square, squat and solid, with an old cannon outside, a tribute to fallen soldiers from Cedar County. That tells you right away that Tranquility is the county seat of Cedar County, a small town, yes, but big compared to other towns in the area, and important. This is where things happen. And the true center of activity, the pulse of the town is coming up on your right. The camera passes a sporty gray convertible Mustang, a racy red Mercedes coupe, a chic dark gray Cadillac and a worn out blue minivan with bald tires, among other vehicles, then the image zooms in on a storefront. The plate glass window is filled with goodies of all types, very retro and spacey looking, lots of circles and swirls, all showing off paper crafts, papers, paint cans, albums and other assorted ephemera related to the hobby of scrapbooking. The painted words along the plate glass window declare that this store is the Crop Circle. A large green alien head smiles beside the words. The glass door swings open with a merry jingle, the camera swoops past shelves and racks, past the center counter – an island of business in the chaos of the store – and to the large open area in the back of the store. A mural of the New Mexico landscape covers one wall, with Roswell identified in the background and a crashed space ship with a tall grayalien laying beside it in the foreground. A black helicopter hovered in the air, frozen in time on the wall. The back wall was completely covered with chalkboard paint, and people had decorated it with all kinds of jottings and drawings and squiggles. The other wall was completely covered with a whiteboard, similarly covered with jottings and drawings and squiggles and notes from one scrapper to another. Several long white banquet tables are set up in the back area, with women gathered around them in folding chairs like hens around a pile of fresh grain. From the outside, men probably think that’s exactly what they are – a bunch of clucking hens. But look a little closer. Especially at the table in the back left corner. The table isn’t crowded. Four women sit together, gathered at the center of the table, two on each side, with their supplies on the ends of the table. There are four women, a pixie like blonde, cute as a button, with an upturned nose and everything. Beside her is a frazzled looking woman, older than the pixie. At least, she looks older at first glance, with her frizzy hair pulled back in a ponytail to hide the fact that it has no shape, no style. She wears no makeup. At closer look, they’re probably closer in age than you first thought. Across from the frazzled woman is her opposite, a tall, slender woman with a sleek bob. Her dark hair is smooth and chic, cut at an angle, longer in front, shorter in back. Stacked, the stylist called it. Everything about her is perfect, from her clothes to her makeup to her hair. Even the layout in front of her is perfectly laid out in a grid. Next to the sleek brunette is a redhead with long, flowing locks that fall in loose waves. Her makeup is applied with a much more liberal hand than any of the others. Her clothes are expensive, and her V-neck blouse is buttoned one button too many. Her breasts are large and worth every penny, she admits readily. The first thing most people notice about her, male or female, is her curves. Outside of the store, the four women might not have been friends. It’s not like they hang out together. But their Wednesday night cropping sessions had brought them together, and they attended the crops as religiously as most of the Bible thumpers in town attended Wednesday night church. One by one, they had found the store. One by one, they learned that scrapbooking was an exciting and fun hobby that brought them together. Their crafty creations were almost a byproduct of their time together.